尼泊尔一妻多夫村:女人嫁给兄弟4个,每天晚上不知道和哪个丈夫一起睡!

In northwestern Nepal On a desolate plateau surrounded by snow-capped mountains There is a little-known ethnic group Nimba Here Marriage has another form A woman Marrying into a family Four husbands took turns “sharing” her night If you hadn’t seen it with your own eyes You can’t believe this system. Still exists in the 21st century Her name is Doma 35 years old There are four husbands in the family Four brothers No flowers on the wedding day No oath Only a faded quilt From that moment on Her life no longer belongs to her From this day on She is the daughter-in-law Helping my mother-in-law with household chores Raising Children She is a laborer She is in charge of herding sheep and farming. She is a “co-wife” Serving a different husband every night In this village Love is not a prerequisite for marriage It is not a woman’s right to choose. It is not uncommon for brothers to marry together It’s the system Women are not married off. Instead, they are assigned to a family system. Becoming a collective wife Mother labor force Many outsiders think polyandry It is a “balance of happiness” But the reality is far more cruel than you imagine Unequal distribution Emotional repression Imbalance of power in the family Making women the most voiceless The most difficult character to escape from She has to balance between men. Maintain harmony among brothers Sacrifice everything between family Let’s ask more directly When a woman Washing and cooking for four men every day Wiping noses and feeding multiple children The nights are also arranged in turns What did she get? It is happiness Still numb It is stability under the protection of the system Still no way out of “helplessness” In this issue we will take these questions Let’s go into this A village hidden under the snow-capped mountains Listen to these “shared wives” How did they live their lives? If you are on the map Find the Nimba village You will find This is a hard-to-find area. It is located in Humla district of Nepal. Close to the China-Nepal border The most remote One of the most difficult areas to reach The whole area is like a frozen island. Nestled between the mighty mountains of the Himalayas Over 3000 meters above sea level Thin air More than a hundred days a year Spend time in the snow Summer comes short and violently Overnight, the mountain flowers are everywhere After a few weeks, it quickly turned yellow. In winter, the wind is as cold as a knife Snow covered mountains It’s so cold that it’s hard to light the stove The Nimba people who live here In this environment, generations have lived They live in A low house made of stone Wood and mud are placed on the top to resist the wind and snow. One room usually needs to stay Four or five adults and a bunch of kids There is no light in the house At night, they use cow dung to light fires to keep warm There is no clear distinction between the kitchen and the bedroom The bed is a mat on the floor Cooking stoves, firewood, livestock feed All piled together Here Life is not just as simple as primitive Due to inconvenient transportation Food and daily necessities in the village Completely self-sufficient The fields are dry land on steep slopes Only barley and potatoes can be grown These highland crops Meat depends on the occasional slaughter of a sheep Most of the time, they eat yak milk and wild vegetables. Living on butter tea Wearing clothes for ten years Repair by hand sewing No medicine Hot stones are the only treatment for colds Cover it and endure it Pregnant women can only rely on their luck to give birth Such days It may be hard to imagine in the eyes of city people But in the eyes of the Nimba people But it’s normal However The bigger problem is “resource allocation” Every inch of land here is hard-earned Limited water resources Barren fields A plot of land that a family can cultivate Often only enough to feed and clothe a family If every brother sets up his own business Then the land will be quickly divided up. Labor will also be dismantled The whole family structure will collapse. then An ancient and realistic marriage system Be preserved That’s polyandry. This system is not a symbol of cultural tradition It is a way to fight against the harsh environment Survival mechanisms with resource constraints Here Brothers marry a woman Not because of romance Because it is practical She became the bond between the brothers It is also the axis that keeps a family together. But the cost of this “sharing” It’s all women’s responsibility She has to face The emotions and needs of multiple men I have to support myself The order of life within the family She is a wife Also a mother It’s the cook A farmer Is a mediator A caregiver for everyone But rarely cared about In this world under the snowy mountains She can’t “choose” whether to get married Can’t decide who to marry I can’t even choose “my own life” And all this Looks reasonable Almost no one raised any objections Maybe It is precisely because of the geographical isolation People just accepted the heaviness of fate. No one has thought about escaping. But in this world blocked by mountains The fate of a woman Like a stone embedded in the mountain Can’t move and nowhere to escape In a village of the Nimba tribe in Nepal Marriage is never a choice based on love It’s an arrangement centered around survival. A woman married to multiple men Especially marrying a whole group of brothers Not an exception The default rule This marriage system is called “Brothers share a wife” It may sound absurd to outsiders. Even unimaginable But in the eyes of the Nimba people It has an iron logic A family does not have much arable land. If brothers start their own families The land will quickly break apart Families fall into poverty But if brothers marry a wife together Then the resources will not be diluted. The family property can be concentrated in one unit Multiple husbands in the family They can take turns to go out to graze, work, and carry salt for exchange The rest stayed at home to take care of the elderly, wives and children Homes run more efficiently Under the system Everything seems to have its “reasonableness” But under this rationality Women’s will is completely erased In the Nimba custom Girls start from their teenage years They were arranged to “discuss marriage” Marriage is not something she can choose. It’s a negotiation between parents and the other family. Who is she going to marry? Marry a few Even marrying several Brothers with a 10-year age difference She has no right to ask As long as the woman’s family doesn’t object This marriage will be considered “appropriate” The wedding was simple and almost indifferent No white yarn No red silk either. All just to get her in the door The most common arrangement is The woman first marries the eldest brother Then the other brothers Joining in a gradual and logical way There is even a saying in the village Women are fire pits Brothers sit around to keep warm It sounds warm. But no one ever asked The Fire Will it also be burned out? The arrangements for married life are also institutionalized There is a shift order among brothers Determined by age Who sleeps with his wife on a particular night This model is not romantic Not even talked about It is just an internal “default schedule” But the object of the scheduling A living woman She can’t choose who she likes. Can’t decide Who owns your body? sometimes She has to face a A brother who is 20 years older than me Sometimes it is a Immature brother She has to suppress her emotions Maintaining Balance Make sure no husband Feeling left out sometimes She herself can’t figure it out Which child belongs to which man? She won’t ask Because here Bloodline is not the most important thing Order is This system is for men It is a tool to share the pressure of survival For women It is a shackle that completely loses the right to autonomy. Outsiders will ask Can she refuse? The answer is cannot even When she was little She has been tied into this arrangement. Even if I don’t want to She couldn’t resist. Her family told her This is for your own good It is a way to protect the family It is the fate of Ningba women If she objects More than just “disobedience” More likely to be seen as ignorant Unreasonable Even lose the “qualification to be a daughter-in-law” And her silence Interpreted as “submission” by the entire system No legal protection No cultural aid All this is like the cold wind on the plateau Irresistible Can only adapt A woman’s marriage is not about “love” It’s about “supply” It’s not about “choice” It’s about support She didn’t marry someone. A whole family She gave more than just her body. Youth and freedom Even dignity This is her marriage. Thomas 35 years old It is in Nimba Village Typical female representatives of polyandry Her home is at the east end of the village. A stone house No window There’s no door lock either. The space inside the house is less than 30 square meters It has to accommodate seven people She and her four husbands and three children Her marriage It started when I was 17. At first she was only betrothed to her eldest brother, Rab A strong but quiet shepherd She remembered that there was no ceremony that day Only two families gathered around the fire Drink a few bowls of wine Grandma handed her an old sheepskin coat Say from today This is your home Less than half a year Rab’s two younger brothers came in one after another Another year has passed The youngest brother also came back from out of town. Everyone in the village knows This is a natural process She is not just Rab’s wife But the “female protagonist” of this brotherhood She never refused There’s no way to refuse She smiled Calm expression Like stating something that has nothing to do with me Her day It started before the sun rose. 5am She got up first, made a fire and boiled tea Then fetch water, cook, and feed the sheep. Four men each have their own division of labor Some people go out to graze Someone went to town to exchange salt Someone stayed at home But no matter how they rotate The arrangement of housework is always fixed Thomas In the morning, I have to do laundry, feed the chickens, and dry the milk. In the afternoon, I work in the fields. Sometimes you have to walk for several hours. Go to my relatives’ house on the other side of the valley Borrow tools or exchange food All day long Her hands hardly stopped. Wrinkles on the face, calluses between the fingers It’s all the “salary” that time gives her. And the night That’s when she’s most silent. According to family tradition Four husbands take turns to “rest” In her bed No romance No intimacy There is no negotiation She can’t refuse Nor will I choose Like today is Tuesday Then tonight belongs to Dabu, the third husband She and Dab rarely talk. Only after dinner together in silence Drink a bowl of butter tea After the children fell asleep The fire was crackling The wind outside is howling There was a slight friction sound from the bedding in the house She won’t resist Nor will it cater to Everything is arranged in the system sometimes She wakes up in the middle of the night Look at the sleeping child Staring blankly at the smoke-blackened mud bricks on the wall What she wants to know most is Whose wife is she? This question She asked herself many times But there is never an answer The youngest husband is only 21 years old She almost “grew up watching” Does he have feelings for her? She doesn’t know What about her to him? Maybe it’s just responsibility and care The three children have no clear father identity The villagers don’t care. Just say “This is the child of this family” Doma himself did not ask Because she knows Asking questions is useless Instead, it will cause discord between brothers. Put yourself in jail She doesn’t go out Not social Don’t say tired She only knew She is the core of the family. If she doesn’t move The whole house will shut down. Four men depend on her for cooking She raised three children. The cattle and sheep depend on her for feeding She takes care of the house Her Body, Time and Labor Completely absorbed by the family Herself There is almost no “individual” There is no story in Doma’s life Just day-to-day tasks But it is this repetition without choice This constitutes the majority of women in Nimba Village. Real life In Nimba Village Marriage is obedience And there is a fixed process Girls know from childhood Marriage is something she will have to face sooner or later No one asked her if she was willing. Because this is a Issues that do not require discussion Marriage usually consists of several stages Each stage is determined by the family First is the “Bel Fruit Ceremony” Girl about ten years old Hosted by the village’s female elders At the ceremony The berberry fruit is used to symbolize that the girl is “married”. This is not a real marriage. Just declare her Already considered as future wife It means she entered The Preparatory Stages of Womanhood The second stage is the “Sun Ceremony” Girls after menarche The elders in the family washed her body Put on new clothes Perform rituals in a small area at home This part She is officially A woman who can give birth Eligibility for marriage Phase 3 A true marriage Usually a verbal agreement between families The woman was arranged to marry the man’s eldest son Simple wedding Mostly in the early morning By father or brother Take her to the man’s house on foot No wedding car There is no lively ceremony At the door The elder brother took her into the house Serving food or tea Even if the wedding is completed The next process No public statement But everyone knows As the other brothers grew up The wives gradually became Their common spouse This has not been officially announced There are no new rituals. As long as there is no disagreement between brothers This happened naturally. The point of this marriage Not about personal feelings It is the maintenance of family structure The position of women in the family is clear She takes care of the whole family The child’s mother A common wife between brothers Who gets married first and who gets married later No clear restrictions As long as the family needs The marriage will continue according to “tradition” Under the system Everyone assumes this is reasonable. Women have no decision-making power Marriage only needs the approval of parents and brothers The marriage was established After the birth of the child I won’t ask who the father is. As long as it is “the child of this family” Will not be treated differently This marriage arrangement To prevent the land from being divided Family breakdown Limited arable land in Nimba Village If the brothers each start their own family The land will be chopped up Family labor will also be weakened therefore Share a wife Considered the most economical way That’s why This system has been maintained till now In Nimba Village A woman’s life From the day I became a “housewife” It started to operate around two core tasks Childbirth and caring for people She may not be more than twenty years old But I already have to take care of four men Several children And a complete daily life of a family Having children This is the beginning of this “job” Nimba women often marry within a year of marriage. You will get pregnant On the one hand, the traditional concept Women get married to pass on their legacy on the other hand It is also a proof of “tacit understanding” between husbands In a polyandrous structure No one will say for sure who the father is. But everyone hopes I am the one who “succeeds first” A woman may have a lifetime To have six to ten children She won’t have maternity leave. No medical resources There is no doctor in the village Most people can only rely on the experience of the older generation to deliver babies If the birth is difficult It depends on luck Women have experienced excessive bleeding during childbirth But because the medical point outside the village requires two days of walking Finally, I didn’t make it through the night. After the child is born, the mother takes care of him alone During the daytime working hours Feed, change clothes, and coax to sleep at any time No milk powder No diapers No auxiliary care There are many men in the family But childcare and housework They will hardly share The four husband roles More of a “producer” or “shift roommates” Not the child’s primary caregiver In addition to raising Women also do all the housework Busy from dawn to dusk every day To boil water, light fire, cook Washing clothes, mowing grass, feeding livestock Sometimes I have to carry my child on my back Working in the fields Go home and continue cooking, sewing, and kneading butter All year round Almost no days off Ice outside in winter The house was filled with smoke and fire She still has to squat on the ground to cook Hands were cracked by the fire His face was blackened by smoke She has no salary No right to share wealth Among brothers Resource allocation by the eldest brother Or the elderly in the family decide Women are rarely consulted Even though she is the only labor force in the family How to divide the fields How to sell sheep It’s not her decision. The most difficult thing to say It’s the “rotation system” at night There is an unwritten schedule between brothers Each person takes turns living with her every night Some families try to avoid disputes. Even set up a schedule She has no choice Can’t resist Even if you feel unwell We also need to cooperate Some women have not recovered from postpartum But I had to receive my husband again If someone feels that they are being left out May cause conflicts among brothers Even family conflicts Her body is not private. It is a shared resource Her emotions can’t be too obvious. Can’t be partial Cannot be avoided Can’t protest She wants to maintain a The “same for everyone” attitude To maintain the family’s “balance” This is not an isolated phenomenon It is the institutional norm In the arrangement of brothers sharing a wife Women are never decision makers They are just the “link” that maintains this structure But the cost of maintaining this structure It’s their whole life. Polyandry Looks like a “shared marriage” But the family structure of Nimba Village Never equal In a family with multiple husbands Real power Always in the hands of the eldest brother The village generally recognized The oldest husband is the “default head of the household” He has the right to marry his wife first Is the first “legal spouse” He is also the “representative” of other brothers. This identity Give him within the family Decision-making power in almost all important matters How to divide the fields How to raise livestock When can any of you go out to work? Does the child receive religious education? These matters are decided by the eldest brother. Even if other brothers have different opinions Most will obey And the wife In this structure Lower status than any husband She is seen as part of the family operation Not a participant It’s the “executor” She has no right to participate in allocation decisions They are unable to make decisions about the direction of their family Her labor supports the whole family. But her voice But rarely is it heard as an opinion In this structure Even which husband she lives with It must also be arranged by the eldest brother Who’s her turn tonight? It’s not her decision. It was arranged by my elder brother. One villager put it bluntly. If she has a good relationship with a brother Can’t show it either That’s disrespectful to Big Brother. This relationship arrangement The “emotion” between husband and wife Flattened by institutionalization Even though she is emotionally Closer to a husband Keep your distance otherwise It will not only cause conflicts among brothers It may also be considered “Unruly Woman” And if a younger brother in the family Want more participation Things can get tense Some young husbands Because I feel that it is not my turn. and cause dissatisfaction Some will propose separation But that means the family fortune will be divided Land reduction This is equivalent to denying the polyandry system itself. In the face of this choice Most people eventually compromised. For women This structure is more like sandwiched The “sandwich layer” between multiple layers of male power She dared not favor any husband No independent decision-making Even if she is most tired Pay the most I can only live in a state of “obeying arrangements” Children’s education Home expenses Livestock Handling She’s working on the front line. But never in the “voting circle” even When something unexpected happens at home For example, too much economic pressure Someone wants to leave A dispute between brothers Instead, she will become a “mediator of conflicts” Not because she has the power to solve the problem She has to maintain a stable family. The family is broken up She has nowhere to go. In the multi-family structure Multiple points of support on the interior surfaces of the home In fact, it is a kind of Brothers default Hierarchy of female submission Institutional Design Let the seemingly “shared” marriage Still maintaining the fundamental framework of male domination The most deprived It is the wife who seems to be “needed by many people” She switched between four husbands But I can’t make the decision in every relationship She is called “the heart of the family” But never really stood at the center of power Everyone’s life is run because of her But her own life There is no place for her. now The mountain road in Nimba Village is still winding The fields are still barren But one thing is changing quietly That’s the attitude of the younger generation. Compared to their parents Today’s young people Earlier exposure to the outside world Even if there is no Internet in the village Some families still rely on relatives The cell phone and radio I brought back Even the occasional outside visitor Get news from outside the village They know there are schools in the city. Have a job, have a different lifestyle Also know Not all women have to marry four husbands In a remote rural primary school A thirteen-year-old girl once told her teacher I don’t want to get married like my mother I want to work in town. Her tone was calm But in Nimba Village Such statements are rare. Escape from the village Become a consensus among some young people Many boys at the age of sixteen or seventeen Started running outside Some people go to nearby markets to work as porters Someone crossed the mountain Smuggling to the Indian border to do odd jobs They may only go home once or twice a year. Sometimes I just don’t come back They don’t want to be like their parents. Stay in the village and take turns “sharing” a woman I don’t want to be under the system Fight for a “turn” position For young women More pressure But there are more choices Some girls attend schools outside their hometowns. Get Opportunities Marry to another village Even far away from the marriage structure of the Nimba people Some people were taken out of the village. Become a helper for a foreign family Nanny, restaurant waiter Their wages are meager But for the first time I really mastered “My own money” Their reasons are straightforward. I don’t want to live the same life as my mother. Mother’s life in their eyes The script has already been written From marriage to childbirth From early morning work to night shifts No choice There has been no change They want to get out of this script. Even if the result is unknown That’s why Marriage system in Nimba Village We are facing an unprecedented “Generational Crisis” The eldest son of some families Reaching marriage age But I can’t find Women who are willing to accept polyandry There are fewer and fewer girls in the village Many families have to give up hope Relying on foreign matchmakers But foreign women Often reject such marriage arrangements Or they choose to leave soon after marrying in. also The spread of education It is also slowly impacting traditional logic This type of problem No one asked in the past Now More and more young people are speaking out certainly Change doesn’t happen overnight Most elders still adhere to the traditional system Some people think that “this is the wisdom left by our ancestors” Some people are also worried Once the system collapses The family economy will be unbalanced The fields will be scattered Family structures will be difficult to maintain But cracks have appeared When traditional systems face the reality As young people gradually withdraw from the system The future of this marriage model It has become less certain Nimba Village is slowly becoming different But how has it become No one knows yet Long videos are not easy to make Welcome everyone to follow, like and collect Our next video will be more exciting

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靠近喜马拉雅的尼泊尔,本是洗涤心灵的好地方,然而,在这片土地上,有一个地方依旧维持千年来的“共妻”习俗,女人会嫁给多个丈夫,你以为有多个男人疼爱,这是享福,其实这是苦命人生的开始,为什么会说这是陋习?又为什么直到如今还是有人愿意嫁进去?哪怕连孩子都不知道是谁的?本期视频将带你走进尼泊尔宁巴族的村落,探寻这个维持一妻多夫制度的古老村落,看看到底还隐藏什么秘密

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16 Comments

  1. 她的出生地决定了她的宿命,她的婚姻没有愛情只有傅出,她沒有自由没有感情沒有尊嚴,直到生命终结也不知何謂人生?生而為人是為什麼?悲哀的世界。.

  2. 4個男人一個女人!不會有性病嗎?女人怎麼受得起床上的折磨!天呀、像妓女一樣!

  3. 由於環境生存條件,以及人的自私,貪心與為了平衡自家的財產,而產生這種男女文化不平衡自私,女人有如奴隸,沒有自己,沈重負擔的角色,一生只為家付出,完全沒有自己,是很難過的生存,生命是什麼,活的意義又是什麼,無知的人生。

  4. 印度,尼泊爾 是 西方民主 和台灣
    詐財民進黨 黨媒體 的 民主天堂🤣🤣🤣

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