I've never seen this anime but 0:46 this part made me look back into my past foolish mistakes with a girl I really loved and made me wonder if she thought the same as the character here.
i'm sorry but the child is living a fantasy, uprooting your entire life and career for an abusive ex isn't the answer, yes she is in danger, her only real options are go to the police and get the boyfriend arrested or dish out a beating where he wouldnt dare look in her general direction ever again.
As a man, honestly i said being in relationship for their money is the worst thing no matter its man or woman,
And man who hope for woman money is the most disgusting,to be a leader of family you shouldn't only hope for woman money, if they agreed to share it, its okay but being in relationship only for woman money is worst than woman who there only for man money
All three perspectives presented to Mizuki have defensible points. "Call the police, let them handle it" is the perspective of the innocent whose world view is that the good guys always win in the end, and bad guys pay for their transgressions. But it ignores the fact that it takes time for that sort of solution to work, and it presents an escalation that the abuser will respond to with more (abuse, violence, even death). "Leave, get out, avoid contact" is the pacifist approach, that forces the victim to pay a huge price for their "freedom" in that they have to leave everything behind – friends, family, possessions; and in the days of social media, it is much easier than it used to be for an abuser to track down their victim… and many abusers will indeed choose to put in the time and effort to do just that, because to do otherwise would be to let the victim "win", while for the victim they are always looking over their shoulder, fearful of the shadows and praying that they can stay hidden. "Let me handle it" sees the weaknesses of the other approaches, but the question is "how far do you go?" – a warning, maybe beating the abuser, may not be enough and could well result in retaliation against the victim, who the abuser will blame for the situation (because being beaten up as a consequence of their own actions is never the abuser's fault). But making the abuser disappear permanently often leaves the victim with feelings of guilt (not logical, but neither is staying with someone who beats and abuses you) about what they feel they are at fault for. It also potentially leaves someone else with the "call the police" option, and while a lot of police will fail to be effective when trying to stop domestic violence, they are often very passionate about tracking down a murderer, even if the murder victim was lowlife scum.
Violence, or more accurately, the application of force is the ONLY answer. What do you think the police are? The police are the communally agreed final arbiter of force. If you don't do what they say, the weight of the whole community's force is applied upon you until you do comply.
The only question is a personal show of force (possibly just a threat needed) enough? Will it need to escalate to vigilantism, or will police need to get involved? Will the police do enough, quickly, or does she need protection NOW?
These are what need to be considered, but don't fool yourself into thinking you aren't applying violence (or the threat of it), just because the police are involved.
I would personally try all three options at once to ensure as much safety away from the abuser as possible. Have the yakuza guy whup his ass (not many people have this as an offer so I would just take it for best results and peace of mind), call the police to haul him to prison, and then move (and maybe change your appearance and personal information). There are pros and cons to each one in reality and neither are guaranteed to work, but all three at the same time would probably help a lot I think. Also maybe take up self defense courses. And get a gun. Surround yourself with family and friends. Really just do everything you can possibly think of to protect yourself. I don't think there are any wrong answers.
She should have been reported him to the police when he first got violent. She shouldn't have let him follow her home; she should have again gone to the police station. She didn't even have pepper spray on her. Now, he's attacking her on the street. Now, her best recourse is to move and change jobs. I'm not sure why we develop the mentality of "if I don't do anything the problem will go away."
As a person who literally got out of a very toxic relationship, I'm going to try to weight in some of the options with my opinion. Please note that there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to domestic violence.
1. Yakuza/Gang Members: I'm going to agree with Karino. You can't solve violence with more violence. It's going to esclate things worse, especially if your ex has some friends. When I told my uncles about my problem, they wanted to hurt him but I begged them not to since I don't want to see them off to jail or get harmed.
2. Getting Police Involved: Getting the police involved is a 50/50 shot. Some will take it seriously, others will not. Plus, even if you order a restraining order. It's nothing more than a piece of paper and the said ex can/will hunt you down regardless with social media. But you can just block them and keep your account private. You have to be very smart and not give off where you might live.
3: Running away: Personally, I choose this option instead of those two- except I'm not friends with the yakuza. To me, running away is both the easiest and hardest thing to do. When I left, I felt guilty for leaving him and often get worried if it was the right thing to do. But in the end, I had to reassure myself that it was for the best otherwise- I would've been hurt.
Before anyone argue with me, I'm going to say it again. There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to domestic violence.
Look I appreciate the wisdom that this kid offers….but I'm gonna beat the living daylights outta that abusive man, wether or not it's the roght thing to do
I swear i love kotaro & wish he got the happiness he deserve but holy sh*t is his suggested solution is sooooo ret*rded. What does running away accomplish? In this day & age where its so easy to track someone?
Lets say mizuki goes to other town & hide while cutting contact with her current cirlce, she will always live in fear with no one to rely on (since she chose to stay away from her current group so no group protection). Who will protect her if mizuki's EX decided to be persistent & managed to find her? Even if her ex doesnt manage to find her, she will live in fear of her ex & overall a lose-lose situation. Even tamaru's solution is better in the sense that u can use hired thug or something similar.
Never before i have the urge to jump into the screen & smack an orphaned +abused child. Kid really should've just shut up & let the adult do the thinking smh🙄
anyone else kinda annoyed that Mizuki's boyfriend hitting her was Treated with the utmost seriousness but Karino's girlfriend Hitting him Twice in his first appearance was Treated like it was supposed to be Funny.
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I know this show is sad and all but,, that kids head is so big that it look punchable
I've never seen this anime but 0:46 this part made me look back into my past foolish mistakes with a girl I really loved and made me wonder if she thought the same as the character here.
i'm sorry but the child is living a fantasy, uprooting your entire life and career for an abusive ex isn't the answer, yes she is in danger, her only real options are go to the police and get the boyfriend arrested or dish out a beating where he wouldnt dare look in her general direction ever again.
What's the name of this anime please?
What anime
Soari Hayami?
0:38– Ow. 😰
As a man, honestly i said being in relationship for their money is the worst thing no matter its man or woman,
And man who hope for woman money is the most disgusting,to be a leader of family you shouldn't only hope for woman money, if they agreed to share it, its okay but being in relationship only for woman money is worst than woman who there only for man money
Running away wont help in some cases the Evil follows you and stalks you for days months years…po po po
She should just get a restraining order and a carry permit, and when he comes to beat her up in retribution, she can just smok….
Ah, this is japan. Tough luck, broad.
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I don't understand, why not just kill the guy? it's cheaper to hire a hitman than moving
I'm not really a violent person but if an opportunity were to rise to beat up an abusive man, count me in.
I get what the kid is saying but it’s also impossible for the abuser to escalate anything if he stops breathing
All three perspectives presented to Mizuki have defensible points.
"Call the police, let them handle it" is the perspective of the innocent whose world view is that the good guys always win in the end, and bad guys pay for their transgressions. But it ignores the fact that it takes time for that sort of solution to work, and it presents an escalation that the abuser will respond to with more (abuse, violence, even death).
"Leave, get out, avoid contact" is the pacifist approach, that forces the victim to pay a huge price for their "freedom" in that they have to leave everything behind – friends, family, possessions; and in the days of social media, it is much easier than it used to be for an abuser to track down their victim… and many abusers will indeed choose to put in the time and effort to do just that, because to do otherwise would be to let the victim "win", while for the victim they are always looking over their shoulder, fearful of the shadows and praying that they can stay hidden.
"Let me handle it" sees the weaknesses of the other approaches, but the question is "how far do you go?" – a warning, maybe beating the abuser, may not be enough and could well result in retaliation against the victim, who the abuser will blame for the situation (because being beaten up as a consequence of their own actions is never the abuser's fault). But making the abuser disappear permanently often leaves the victim with feelings of guilt (not logical, but neither is staying with someone who beats and abuses you) about what they feel they are at fault for. It also potentially leaves someone else with the "call the police" option, and while a lot of police will fail to be effective when trying to stop domestic violence, they are often very passionate about tracking down a murderer, even if the murder victim was lowlife scum.
people who grew up in abuse knows why kotaro's advice is very sound, compared to others.
When I saw the image of the anime on Netflix, I thought it was gonna be a wholesome slice of life, but damn was I wrong for the most part.
"More violence is never the answer to violence."
Violence, or more accurately, the application of force is the ONLY answer.
What do you think the police are? The police are the communally agreed final arbiter of force. If you don't do what they say, the weight of the whole community's force is applied upon you until you do comply.
The only question is a personal show of force (possibly just a threat needed) enough? Will it need to escalate to vigilantism, or will police need to get involved?
Will the police do enough, quickly, or does she need protection NOW?
These are what need to be considered, but don't fool yourself into thinking you aren't applying violence (or the threat of it), just because the police are involved.
0:39 what an awful guy
those males who hit a women are the worst scum on this planet (yep i copy paste that line from an anime)
Where I come from all 3 would happen. The dude would get his legs broke, then we’d call the cops and have them throw him in jail, then you’d move.
1:11 LMAO it’s funny because I wondering where this homie was so he just can beat up the bf 😭
The first one does what a innocent lerson would do call the police
The second one does what a violent man would do take revenge himself
The third one does what a scared person would do, take more thoughts about possibilities
Honestly i would just recommend
For her to film without being noticed after that go to the police
They cant refuse if you have evidence
When dealing with someone like that the best course of action is to make them 'disappear'
why do i see it has the " oyasumi punpun :" vibe
This is some slice of life that i wanna watch rn, not just daily life. Do you fellow brother in weebs have some reccomendation similar to this anime?
In this anime what kind of animation did they do they make their eyes 😂 Alien
Tamaru should have just dealt with him. Who's gonna fuck with the close friend of a Yakuza
that boi was sent on a holy mission, he just changes lives with common sense
I would personally try all three options at once to ensure as much safety away from the abuser as possible. Have the yakuza guy whup his ass (not many people have this as an offer so I would just take it for best results and peace of mind), call the police to haul him to prison, and then move (and maybe change your appearance and personal information). There are pros and cons to each one in reality and neither are guaranteed to work, but all three at the same time would probably help a lot I think. Also maybe take up self defense courses. And get a gun. Surround yourself with family and friends. Really just do everything you can possibly think of to protect yourself. I don't think there are any wrong answers.
Anime name?
You don’t tell a man “i need time” you break up right away…tho that is no excuse to act violently
She should have been reported him to the police when he first got violent. She shouldn't have let him follow her home; she should have again gone to the police station. She didn't even have pepper spray on her. Now, he's attacking her on the street. Now, her best recourse is to move and change jobs. I'm not sure why we develop the mentality of "if I don't do anything the problem will go away."
As a person who literally got out of a very toxic relationship, I'm going to try to weight in some of the options with my opinion. Please note that there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to domestic violence.
1. Yakuza/Gang Members: I'm going to agree with Karino. You can't solve violence with more violence. It's going to esclate things worse, especially if your ex has some friends. When I told my uncles about my problem, they wanted to hurt him but I begged them not to since I don't want to see them off to jail or get harmed.
2. Getting Police Involved: Getting the police involved is a 50/50 shot. Some will take it seriously, others will not. Plus, even if you order a restraining order. It's nothing more than a piece of paper and the said ex can/will hunt you down regardless with social media. But you can just block them and keep your account private. You have to be very smart and not give off where you might live.
3: Running away: Personally, I choose this option instead of those two- except I'm not friends with the yakuza. To me, running away is both the easiest and hardest thing to do. When I left, I felt guilty for leaving him and often get worried if it was the right thing to do. But in the end, I had to reassure myself that it was for the best otherwise- I would've been hurt.
Before anyone argue with me, I'm going to say it again. There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to domestic violence.
Wow this is actually deep and well thought.That's a real life advice
Bro the guy that calls kotaro, "widdle kotaro" is a savage that man straight has confidence
Nose ingles xD
Look I appreciate the wisdom that this kid offers….but I'm gonna beat the living daylights outta that abusive man, wether or not it's the roght thing to do
Violence isn't the answer but running away isn't also the answer, kotaro is still 4 yrs old I know his past but cmon😑
Got to love how even Tamaru is willing to help her.
Why is kotaro present when they have this adult conversation… bad bad adults
I swear i love kotaro & wish he got the happiness he deserve but holy sh*t is his suggested solution is sooooo ret*rded. What does running away accomplish? In this day & age where its so easy to track someone?
Lets say mizuki goes to other town & hide while cutting contact with her current cirlce, she will always live in fear with no one to rely on (since she chose to stay away from her current group so no group protection). Who will protect her if mizuki's EX decided to be persistent & managed to find her? Even if her ex doesnt manage to find her, she will live in fear of her ex & overall a lose-lose situation. Even tamaru's solution is better in the sense that u can use hired thug or something similar.
Never before i have the urge to jump into the screen & smack an orphaned +abused child. Kid really should've just shut up & let the adult do the thinking smh🙄
Tamaru’s option is the best.
That's anime is tell us about "you not alone we gonna protect/care you"
anyone else kinda annoyed that Mizuki's boyfriend hitting her was Treated with the utmost seriousness but Karino's girlfriend Hitting him Twice in his first appearance was Treated like it was supposed to be Funny.
Kotaro's option was exactly what he did when his dad found out he location of his previous childcare home.
I can't believe she just left the story like that, I hope she comes back in the future and her storyline gets resolved
Did voice actress shinobu did her voice….:))
If they had let Tamaru do something she would’ve never had to move and leave Kotaro